Surviving Christmas: Real Talk and Mental Health Strategies

Getting Through Christmas: Practical Mental Health Tips

Christmas can be a mix of excitement, stress, and emotional weight. The pressure to make everything perfect, manage relationships, or simply cope with loneliness or grief can be overwhelming. If you’re feeling the strain, remember: it’s okay to prioritise your mental health. Here are straightforward techniques to help you get through Christmas with greater peace and resilience.

1. Lower the Pressure

Let go of the expectation for perfection. Christmas doesn’t have to look a certain way to be meaningful.

• Focus on “Good Enough”: It’s okay if the tree isn’t perfectly decorated or dinner isn’t gourmet. Your mental well-being is more important than details.
• Set Simple Goals: Instead of trying to do everything, pick one or two small things that feel manageable, and focus on those.

2. Take a Break When You Need It

It’s easy to feel caught up in the whirlwind of last-minute preparations or family dynamics. Make space for yourself.

• Step Away: If things get overwhelming, take a walk, find a quiet room, or even step outside for fresh air.
• Pause for 5 Minutes: Practice a few deep breaths or grounding techniques to reset and calm your mind.

3. Acknowledge Your Emotions

Christmas can be particularly hard if you’re dealing with loneliness, grief, or anxiety. It’s important to accept and honour those feelings.

• Name What You’re Feeling: Whether it’s sadness, frustration, or nostalgia, simply identifying your emotions can provide relief.
• Let Go of Guilt: If you’re not feeling joyful, that’s okay. The holiday doesn’t have to look or feel a certain way.

4. Create a Calm Environment

A peaceful environment can help lower stress and make the evening more manageable.

• Simplify the Space: If clutter or chaos is adding to your stress, take 10 minutes to tidy up or organise.
• Use Comforting Sensory Cues: Light candles, play soft music, or wrap yourself in a cosy blanket to soothe your senses.

5. Be Intentional About Social Interactions

Whether you’re surrounded by family or spending time alone, take control of how you engage.

• Set Boundaries: If certain topics or people create stress, it’s okay to redirect conversations or politely excuse yourself. (This includes telling yourself you're not going to indulge the negative comments in your own mind.)
• Reach Out: If you’re feeling lonely, call or message a friend, join an online gathering, or watch a live-streamed holiday event.

6. Practice Gratitude, Even in Small Ways

Gratitude doesn’t have to be grandiose. Focusing on small positives can shift your perspective.

• Find Tiny Joys: Notice small things - a warm drink, the glow of holiday lights, or a favourite song - that bring comfort.
• Write Down One Good Thing: Even in difficult times, finding one thing to appreciate can ground you.

7. Limit Overindulgence

Holiday excess can amplify stress or anxiety, so aim for balance.

• Eat Mindfully: Enjoy festive treats, but try to avoid overeating as a way to cope with emotions.
• Drink in Moderation: Alcohol can intensify feelings of sadness or anxiety, fuel family feuds, and leave you feeling less than best. Consider alternative drinks if you’re feeling vulnerable.

8. Know It’s Okay to Say No

If something doesn’t feel right for your mental health, you’re allowed to opt out.

• Skip Traditions If Needed: Traditions are meant to bring joy, not stress. Skip or adapt them if they’re not serving you this year.
• Put Yourself First: It’s okay to prioritise rest, quiet, or self-care over other people’s expectations.

9. Reach Out for Help

If you’re struggling deeply, remember that support is available.

• Call a Helpline: Many organisations offer confidential, 24/7 mental health support, even on Christmas.
• Talk to a Trusted Person: Share your feelings with someone you trust, even if it’s just to feel heard.

Final Thought

Christmas doesn’t have to be perfect, and it doesn’t have to follow anyone else’s rules. Prioritise what makes you feel calm, grounded, and supported, even if that means doing less or taking a step back. By focusing on small, manageable ways to care for yourself, you can navigate the evening in a way that supports your mental health. 

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